Having a relationship with someone you work with can be nerve-racking and uncomfortable, at best. When you attempt to do this, the next thing you know, you will find yourself sneaking around, attempting not to be seen by anybody. Then, you'll find yourself lying and striving to keep your little affair from being discovered by your coworkers.
In this type of relationship, people begin striving to validate what they are doing by attempting to persuade themselves they, at long last, have found the one they've been looking for all their lives. The problem is, these lovers have to be very cautious or they will most surely be caught.
After a while, people who are engaged in office affairs start to feel that the affair is causing more problems than it's worth. This alone, can lead to a breakup. This is especially true when the affair is a secret because one or both of the love partners have other relationships outside the office. Many times, both of them are married.
You can easily see the problems this presents. If a person is a cheater, he or she certainly doesn't want the world to know it. This is what causes the secretiveness of the relationship. However, many times they do not have relationships outside the office. In some cases, the only one each person is seeing is the one engaged in the office affair with them.
In this type of an interoffice affair, it doesn't sound like there would be so much of a problem. However, very often there is simply because there is a company policy against such carryings on. In this situation, the couple involved in the relationship wants to keep it secret because they're afraid they will get fired if it gets out. Their fear is warranted because most companies believe such affairs are very destructive to the company and usually cause those involved in it to be at least, somewhat unproductive.
It is certainly all right to meet someone at work and build a love relationship with this person. However, carrying on at work is not at all alright. The reason people do so is either they're using very bad judgment or they do indeed; have another relationship outside the office. So, as you can see, there is no good reason to have an office love relationship.
If you find yourself in such a relationship, look deep inside into what's happening. Are you or your partner cheating? Are you doing something that you would still be secretive about if there were not office rules against it? Are you hiding a lifestyle outside the office you don't want the other one to know about? Answering these questions will show you the truth about your relationship. If you have answered yes to any of them, you are in a relationship headed for a brutal ending and the best thing you can do is to get out of it as quickly and as gracefully as you can.
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